What kind of advice should I give?

Okay well there's this guy I kind of have a crush on; however we are friends. And he's thinking of going back to his ex-girlfriend, who isn't exactly the best person. Mind you this girl made him get into ALOT of bad **** (drugs, sex etc.) And she also wanted to sleep with his best friend, which hurt him immensely. However despite it all he loves her, and wants her back but of course is unsure. As a friend what kind of advice should I give him without sounding like I'm taking sides and such? What kind of advice should I give?
I want to say takes sides, but saying that let assume this guy has a mind of his own, certainly this girl couldn't have led him where he didn't really want to go, you say he loves her...





Say to him , as a friend you really don't want to see him back in a relationship


that can really hurt him again, he needs to really let this one go,obviously the relationship wasn't a healthy one...he needs to move on not look back.





I love maple almond ice cream,really do but it really makes me sick, I'm lactose intolerant, I've recognised this , now I choose an ice cream that I can really enjoy without the bad results, maybe you can suggest your friend do the same in his relationship.





What kind of advice should I give?
As a friend, you need to take sides here-- his.





Loving someone is wonderful, but he led her astray and did some pretty bad things to him and led him in some very unhappy directions. If you want him to be happy, you need to be honest and tell him, your own crush totally aside, that you can't see how this situation is going to be any better than it was before, no matter what kind of promises she might (or might not!) make him.





This sounds like a losing situation for him. If he demands to know if it's because you have a crush on him, if he suspects, you can honestly say no-- it's because you like him, he's your friend, and you don't want to see your friends get hurt.





Good luck!
Ask him why he wants someone who brings him down. What is it that he sees in her? You actually want to see him happy. Tell him what is good for him.... that is being a true friend. He will see that you are on his side. What is wrong with that?